大学寄成绩单给家长，有必要吗？
<p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;caret-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0);font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em">日前，有大学生在社交平台上分享学校寄给家长的期末成绩单，引起热议。不少网友表示，自己的学校也有相同操作。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;caret-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0);font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: center"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775078" data-ratio="1.6759259259259258" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbn8GF4b8TG9K9RgPW9iaBkSdpZa53INhVtZ9BHFWaBqj117jQAqeEYxCdBicBKqB4L5SZT9SwHtYXbag/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&wxfrom=13" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" data-original-style="width: 296px;height: 496px;" data-index="2" _width="296px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" data-sec-load-status="2" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;width: 296px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></section></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">都到大学了，还有必要告诉家长考试成绩吗？</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">评论区里，意见不一，似乎支持的意见占上风。有人说，大学生花着父母的钱，为何家长不能看成绩？有人说，定期向“股东披露业绩”，没毛病；有人说，放任不管，万一放飞自我被劝退咋办？</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">这种所谓“多数人支持寄成绩单”的言论，可能并不靠谱，往往是家长视角。</span></strong><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">家长的身份本能，对孩子成绩的窥视习惯，决定了这个群体的态度。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">如果换个讨论场景，由大学生来表达看法，结论可能就完全相反了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: center"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775079" data-ratio="1" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbn8GF4b8TG9K9RgPW9iaBkSdp7UNGumVxBalJpNLAvcoBCXoVgUTmV6aANocAYX6S2h0GZsqP5efwmg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="812" data-original-style="width: 194px;height: 194px;" data-index="3" _width="194px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;width: 194px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></section></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">教育问题上，家长过于强势的视角，对孩子成绩自小到大根深蒂固的“全景监控欲”，强烈的介入冲动，很多时候恰恰就是问题的一部分。之前就有媒体报道，不少大学生的家长也像小学那样建家长群，想时时了解“孩子”在学校里的情况。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">从“家长群”到“成绩单”，家长何时才能摆脱高中化思维，真正把大学生当成独立的成年人，形成成年人与成年人界限？</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 8px;margin-bottom: 24px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="0.24888888888888888" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/KdAStmiazbn8MxbP5rvrJQPVYxtdocSDsQ9bVsazXqr9nNBLWIYwW8ic5A5lUXZszdOtNLQa0N88mbKbB5HHGnEQ/640?wx_fmt=png&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1&tp=wxpic" data-type="png" data-w="900" data-original-style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;width: 577.778px !important;visibility: visible !important;" data-index="4" _width="577.778px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: middle;height: auto !important;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);width: 577.775px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></p><p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px 0px 24px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 20px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">“我花了钱，看看怎么了？”</strong></p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;line-height: 2em"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></section><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">让家长看一下成绩单怎么了？如果不是考得很差，干吗怕家长看成绩单啊？——<strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important">这种逻辑，很像一些人在窥探别人隐私时，理直气壮地说，你又没做什么见不得人的事，怎么就不能看了？</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">信息和隐私是一个人个体主权的一部分，拥有可以让别人“闭上眼睛”的合理期待，不能用“是不是见不得人”去绑架。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: center"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775080" data-ratio="0.9797101449275363" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbn8GF4b8TG9K9RgPW9iaBkSdpTuAOKqdlGQQkcWkG308d1iaE8O8hia1ZGvKWzQsPic66ahyP8sadUGdSA/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="690" data-original-style="width: 212px;height: 208px;" data-index="5" _width="212px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;width: 212px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></section><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">隐私面前，即使家长也不能例外。</span></strong><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">未经大学生本人同意，绕过作为成年人的大学生而直接与家长联系，以“为了学生好”的名义寄成绩单，这是没有把大学生当成一个可以为自己负责的成年人去尊重。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">大学生花着父母的钱，为何家长不能看成绩？这种说法也是有毛病的，不能以“我出钱了所以我有权介入干预”这套经济逻辑来理解亲子关系。如果按那种的逻辑，那么等父母老了，孩子给父母养老时，孩子也拥有了某些对父母的支配权。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">父母花钱让孩子接受教育，不就是为了让孩子成为一个人格和思想健全的人，独立的人，为自己的各种选择负责任的人。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">以“花我的钱就得听我的话”“就得接受我的凝视”去过度介入年轻人的成长，在本该孩子真正独立负责的时候断掉不了那种支配欲，恰恰影响了孩子成为一个独立的人。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775081" data-ratio="0.6666666666666666" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbn8GF4b8TG9K9RgPW9iaBkSdp1Hwk72QgGvKEEdq4ibWpxForibg8jQ2RXmKW1q48qicPicUpKtuo7ehwoQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" data-original-style="" data-index="6" _width="677px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="0.23555555555555555" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/KdAStmiazbn8MxbP5rvrJQPVYxtdocSDsWJWKsTiaJjghicdD6YUvDRlibRGZJiaUzcLzYAOoOMWFNIBOvobadGX3Sg/640?wx_fmt=png&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1&tp=wxpic" data-type="png" data-w="900" data-original-style="text-indent: 0em;font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 20px;outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;width: 577.778px !important;visibility: visible !important;" data-index="7" _width="577.778px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: middle;height: auto !important;text-indent: 0em;font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 20px;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;width: 577.775px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></p></section></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 24px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 20px;letter-spacing: 0.034em">大学，还靠家长督促？</strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">其实，家长了解一下孩子在大学的成绩，也没什么大不了的，看就看呗。<strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important">关键是，家长对待分数的态度。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">“给家长寄送成绩单”后的真问题是，不仅让家长看到了成绩，更容易将中学的“成绩单焦虑”延伸到大学。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">过去总有人说“到了大学就轻松了”，其实并非如此。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">当下的大学一点不轻松，成绩依然很重要，但跟高中“必须用分数去死磕高考”不一样的是，考核标准比较多元，一个人可以有多元的发展空间：可以在绩点上拼保研，可以找到自己的研究兴趣去努力考研，可以去拼科研，可以在实习中积累好的工作机会，可以参加各种竞赛。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: center"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775082" data-ratio="0.6666666666666666" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbnicuiasu5picMLJsU6g8z7uXdyoMEICByPtB0tCiaUwOqCa5aVJxe4K1Po8OUp2Cbx73WIShJribibUlb8w/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" data-original-style="" data-index="8" _width="677px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important"/></section></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">家长如果不了解完整的大学生活，不了解全面的大学生评价标准，单单看一份成绩单，很容易延续那种“成绩单焦虑”：怎么这门考得这么低？这科考得高，是不是普遍分数都很高，你这分数在全班是什么名次呢？是不是在学校没有好好学习天天瞎混？</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">成绩导向，结果导向，功利导向，家长的焦虑势必又都会投射到学生身上。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">家长知道学生成绩，可以形成一种督促，避免放飞自我，可问题在于，学生并不缺少“督促”，当下大学本身就已经有了一套非常“卷”的督促机制，何必再加一道“卷”的紧箍咒，让家长去强化那种焦虑呢？</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p><section style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: center"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775083" data-ratio="0.6666666666666666" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbnicuiasu5picMLJsU6g8z7uXdyFVWeQIL4xhTCavkuBtUlntBYgAv85wHTbIcGZia7piacG6VCyBcwgEqg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" data-original-style="" data-index="9" _width="677px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important"/></section></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">可能大学里确实会有少数放飞自我的学生，学校的“督促”对他们是失效的，可是，远在千里之外的家长就能通过成绩单实现这种“督促”吗？自主意识的觉醒度是社会化一个十分关键的标准，一个人真正的成长和独立，就是从切断家长的支配开始。自己管理自己，对自己的选择负责，承担自己选择的后果。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">“家长”身影如影随形，离不开“家长督促”，孩子怎么独立？<strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important">那些放飞自我的学生，可能不是“家长管得不够”，而恰恰是“以前管得太多”“还没有学会管好自己”。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 24px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="0.24333333333333335" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/KdAStmiazbn8MxbP5rvrJQPVYxtdocSDsKEeH4icg4sUndwWoOiczyFAZXNkob3skgV8F3egu54nUzJlpTibLD6AvA/640?wx_fmt=png&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1&tp=wxpic" data-type="png" data-w="900" data-original-style="letter-spacing: 0.578px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 20px;text-align: center;outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;width: 577.778px !important;visibility: visible !important;" data-index="10" _width="577.778px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: middle;height: auto !important;letter-spacing: 0.578px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 20px;text-align: center;width: 577.775px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></p><p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px 0px 24px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 20px;letter-spacing: 0.034em">家长们，该放手啦！</strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">之前有一些媒体报道，反映了现在大学生的“晚熟问题”：一些大学生不像成年人一样自己作决定和承担责任，他们20多岁了，冲在前面探索他们人生的却是家长。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">父母甚至给老师打电话，说孩子学习忙，不要去打扰孩子，老师有什么事直接跟父母商讨。保研、考公、谈恋爱、就业全都在家长的干预下。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775085" data-ratio="0.9889447236180905" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbnicuiasu5picMLJsU6g8z7uXdyp7y4pUZCwsE1SQicpc0jJ6pQS4se4bAJoBUgDohoIuabiahiakV64ic01g/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="995" data-original-style="width: 221px;height: 219px;" data-index="11" _width="221px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;width: 221px !important;visibility: visible !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">清华大学的甘阳教授说：开学典礼上家长问了我一个问题，对家长有什么建议。我说，你们管得越少越好。你们应该相信清华大学。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">让厦门大学教授徐岚觉得不可理喻的是，还有负责研究生阶段的老师提出来，要不要研究一下研究生培养过程中如何进行家校协同。为什么高中化，为什么晚熟？家长如果不放手，切不断那种“成绩单凝视”，晚熟还会更晚。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_insertlocalimg" data-imgfileid="507775084" data-ratio="0.6666666666666666" data-s="300,640" src="http://qx.dz169.com/plugin.php?id=wcn_editor:wx_img&url=https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_jpg/KdAStmiazbnicuiasu5picMLJsU6g8z7uXdyc0vXM3maOyHicNDfTON8mjloQ4j5nRicseicOJqZ4BbLUcGhY6ic76icB6Q/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&from=appmsg&tp=webp&wxfrom=5&wx_lazy=1&wx_co=1" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" data-original-style="" data-index="12" _width="677px" __sec_open_place_holder__="true" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="图片" data-fail="0" style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;height: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">这种没有权界的管法，学校累，老师累，家长累，学生更累。大学之大，在于它应该有一个大的、可以自由伸展的空间。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">事事离不开“家长”的学生，是长不大的；而总寄望“家长”随时介入的大学，说明还是不够“大学”。我还记得之前不少大学有过这样的举措，家长送大学新生报到，被学校学生志愿者“温柔”拦下，要求学生独立去报到，多环节让“家长止步”，有学校甚至为独自报到的学生设“独立奖”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent">多年前，某大学新生报到时，在家长休息咨询处，学校挂了一条横幅——请家长放手，让我们护航。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent"><br style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;clear: both;min-height: 1em;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)">大学教育，需要这样的护航自信，需要有对年轻人独立成长的相信。</span></strong></p><strong style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important"><span style=";padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.034em;caret-color: transparent;color: rgb(122, 68, 66)"><br/></span></strong></section></p><p><br/></p><link rel="stylesheet" href="http://qx.dz169.com/source/plugin/wcn_editor/public/wcn_editor_fit.css?v133_Vjj" id="wcn_editor_css"/> 嘞学校还可以嘛，我两个娃儿的学校从没说过嘞些事情，根本就不晓得娃儿学习囊开样 必须的 点赞 支持 加油 :handshake :lol 有必要 :o:o:o
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